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I need more of my King Jesus in my life

momwifediva — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 18:05:00 +0000

Mable ‘Madea’ Simmons: She don’t know me. I’m a straight-up thug. I shot Tupac. Yes, I did. We was arguing over a parking place. I didn’t kill him, though. No, that wasn’t me.

Remember when I told you that I wrote off my friend/neighbor. Well the other day she finally gave me eye contact after 4 months. Usually when I come outside she keeps her eyes to the ground or quietly retreat in the house. Look I didn’t mean to put fear in the chick. Honestly I didn’t but you know that stereotype about black women ~~being big ole mean fight/cuss you out in a minute bitches~~ are aggressive, I think she thinks that’s me. I am not going to cuss her out waving my finger. Nor am I going to beat her down on her porch. I am just too damn sexy for that. But there’s the problem, I kinda like the intimidation. It tickles me that this chick that swears she is the toughest white chick (not my words) walking is scared of me. Mind you I just stop talking to the chick. She was a trouble making and I didn’t need the headache or drama. Never did I verbally or non verbally gave her that indication. Well I do look at her. I will not look away or run in my house. She is not God nor am I going to fear her.

It cant be right to get a kick out of this. Actually I know its not right but never the less the stereotyping of black women crack me the hell up. We are not all crazy. Hell, I seen some white girls that will jump bad at you. Goes to show you that a stereotype only represents a small portion of a group of people.

Am I where I want to be in life??

momwifediva — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 15:29:00 +0000

This is a question that I ask myself ALL the time. I analyze EVERYTHING. I am known to over analyze, also. I honestly debate all the time if I am where I want to be. I think that I am a wonderful mother. I have to say that I had a great foundation planted from my mother. She always placed her family first. Which shown me that I HAVE to place my family first. I felt nourished and loved when I watched my mother sacrifice it all for her family. I always told myself that when I grow up that I wasnt going to be like my mother. I wasn’t going to live my life through my kids. I think that was the only flaw that my mother had. She had placed all her time and energy towards her kids. Not that it was a bad thing for my brother and me but I think that my mother should have had a life outside of her kids.

Now with that said, I see myself falling victim with the same issue. I NEED a life outside of my children. Not because I don’t love them but because they wont be little and running around my house forever. I will nourish their souls, rear them to be ready for the world, and steal all the kisses and hugs that I can. Then when they are gone what am I going to do. My mother went back to college. I was soooo proud of her. I was in my twenties when she graduated. She worked hard and graduated with recognition from Who’s Who magazine. I decided to go back to school while my children were young. I want to finish now. They wont even remember when mommy was in college. So that’s out of the way. Then what? I want a business. I really do. I haven’t had the time to really concentrate on that because of school. I know that once all three of mine are in school full time, I will have more time to dedicate to my dream.

Then leaves me wondering how can I fulfill my dreams with my husband career. I guess that is what my mother faced. We have husbands that career didn’t allow us set up a stabilized home. This is one reason why I don’t travel with him when he goes to all these schools. I could follow him but I decided to sacrifice my time with my husband to ensure that I don’t uproot my children every few months. Been there done that. I didn’t like it when I was growing up and I was not going to do it to my children. Moving every 3 years is enough. People ask me all the time how can I be without my husband for so long. My marriage is build on God’s love and foundation. Don’t get me wrong it is hard to have my husband away but all this will pay off. I love him. He loves me. If you are dedicated to each other, distance is just an obstacle you will learn to overcome with different avenues.

Side note: I do have to say that my decision…well mine and husband decision has been very testing. This is not the first time not having him home but I realize the more that he is gone the more we appreciate each other. So the distance hasn’t been unbearably hard on us as a couple. Thank God for computers, webcams, phones, highways and cars. If there is a will, there is a way.

I plan to be a full time mother for some years to come. I will probably go back to work part time but like I said my family will come first. Do I miss working? Damn right I do. Its a bitch sometimes not going out to work and not being with people my age. Talking to little people all day can be draining. This is why I’m searching for my inner self. I want to find me before it’s to late. I don’t care what anyone says. There is a time that I believe that its too late.

What’s my plan? I’m not sure yet! I still have to decide how I am going to make my dream flourish and at the same time support my husband’s dream. The benefits of a wife..huh!
I am getting there.

“Nobody told me the road would be easy. I don’t believe he bought this far to leave to me.”

Ok so I said I wasnt going to blog but

momwifediva — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 13:49:00 +0000

I have to say this. Whining ass adults get on my nerves. Damn, Man the hell up. You situation isn’t worst than nobody else. Half the time no one really cares about your damn situation anyway. Sorry but I am just annoyed with people I have encountered lately with their damn juvenile whining. My mama always told me that you should be thankful for what God has given you because there is always someone out there with a story that is more heartbreaking than yours. Especially when your story isnt even worth opening your mouth about.

Have you ever met someone that every time you talk to them they have a sad ass story for you? They want you to pity them and their situation. No one has a worse time in life than them. Well today I am going to take a stand. I won’t be mean (tell them to shut the shit up) but I am going to start telling people that their situation isn’t the end of the world. If they keep speaking negativity to their lives then they enjoy the negative situation.

SIGHHHH!!!! I feel so much better digressing. HA!!! If you think about it this is my pity adult bitch and moan session…I mean whining.

Taking a little break

momwifediva — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 14:44:00 +0000

Usually I post at least once a day but I have been really busy and cant devote the time to this blog. I will be back soon. I really enjoy sharing my life with you and will be back in November.

Hey all!!

momwifediva — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 14:18:00 +0000

I’ve been really busy lately. Which is typical because I am approaching the end of a semester. My finals are next week and I am trying to get ready for my trip. Other than that I am doing well. I have a lot on my mind that I need to share with you but I really don’t have the time right now.

I got the flu shot yesterday. This flu thing is shhhh is out of control. They are even offering them in the schools. This is crazy. One simple way people can control these illness is stay their asses home when they are sick. It frustrates me to no end when I see people sick and knowing they should be in the bed some where out and about. Then I watched this woman go to the bathroom and not even wash her hands. Come on people. That is nasty. Im’ma get nasty witcha. You go and touch your urine saturated vagina to wipe and you dont feel the need to wash your hands. Dont worry I wont touch you and please don’t invite me to your house because I would hate to tell you that I will not accept that invitation because of your hygiene practice. I heard someone say that the soap is too harsh and breaks them out. Carry a small container in your purse of your favorite soap. Go to the store and stock up on my hand sanitizer. Hand sanitizer will not do it alone people. Antibacterial soap and water. WATER YOUR DAMN HANDS!!!!

Ok, I’m done ranting. LOL!! Talk to you later. Have work to do. HA!

Sorry but watching the news and reading people are closing schools because of these illnesses are beyond me.

My vision board

momwifediva — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 21:10:00 +0000

This weekend I had a BALL working on my vision board. I didn’t realize how much fun this was going to be. I was on the phone with my husband and next thing you know I was more than half way finished. I still didn’t go get a new memory card so I attempted to take a picture with my webcam. Sad attempt might I say.

Cant really tell what everything is but it really came out cool. I need a few more magazines in order to finish but I am working on it.

Christmas Week Date Night :)

momwifediva — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 14:52:00 +0000

My mother and father asked us what we wanted for Christmas. I told them that I want something simple. I want them to keep a the kids ALL day to allow Michael and I go have a Date Day. I am actually really excited because I am already planning this out….Well kind of. Well I know for sure that I am going to go to the lake where he proposed 13 yrs ago. Then we will end the night with drinks and dessert. All I need is to figure out what we are going to do during the day. This will be one of my gifts to him for Christmas. He will love it. Details, I am going to surprise them with. I am going to go allll out. We haven’t spent much time together this year and wont spend much time next year. I want to do something really nice for us.

Some tips I found on reaching your goals.

momwifediva — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 16:13:00 +0000

Be S.M.A.R.T.: Set S.M.A.R.T. goals. This goal setting acronym approach has been around for a long time and it still works! You increase your odds of reaching your goal if you answer yes to all of these as you set it:

· Specific – have I described details rather than general ideas of the goal?

· Measurable – can someone else measure and see that I reached my goal?

· Attainable – is this goal actually reachable?

· Realistic – even if it is reachable, is it realistic that I am willing to do what it takes to reach it.

· Timeline – do I have a deadline for reaching this goal?
Document: If it’s not documented, it’s not going to happen. Most leaders learn quickly (often the hard way,) if it isn’t documented it didn’t happen. Goal setting is similar, it must be documented. The act of writing your goal down creates a sense of commitment and also allows you to read it. Reading your goal gives your mind more confidence that achieving it is possible. We tend to believe what we read, that is why magazines like The Globe can sell stories about aliens abducting Bigfoot. Write your goals down and look at them frequently.
Why Me!?: Why is the goal important to you? Think about what benefits the goal offers you. What rewards are associated with reaching this goal? Do you want those rewards? If not, you are not going to stay committed to reaching the goal. The bigger the why, the greater chance of success. If your why is big enough, you will usually figure out the how. It is up to you to discover a why that makes you want to achieve the goal.
No Magic: Resist magically turning excuses into reasons. I have witnessed people magically turn what appeared to be an excuse into a perfectly justifiable reason for not achieving a goal. This powerful magic trick can only be reversed by the magician who performed it. We are all amateur magicians in that sense. We are all guilty of accepting situations as final and giving up on goals. If we want to reach goals (especially those worthwhile difficult goals) we must fight the urge to perform and leave the magic to Penn & Teller.
Habit Forming: Make goal setting a regular part of your life. Much like a successful diet, goal setting works best when it becomes part of the fabric of your life. Yo-yo dieting is a huge issue in the United States. People get motivated to lose weight, so they start the latest fad diet. After a few weeks (or even hours in some cases) we find ourselves on the downward spin of the yo-yo. The people that have had the most success with losing weight long-term are the ones who have made a healthy diet permanent part of their life – not a temporary prison sentence they are waiting to get paroled from. The same can be seen with goal setting. The more a part of your life it is, the easier it becomes and the greater your success.
Get Help: Have a coach help you through the process. If you are pursuing a large or long-term goal, you may benefit from the support of a coach. Depending on the importance of the goal, this can be a professional coach or even a trusted co-worker or friend. A good coach will support you, while at the same time holding you accountable to do your best. In most cases, it is wise to not share your goal with everyone. Many people love to pick goals apart and you may find yourself using your energy to defend your ability to reach your goal instead of using it to achieve your goal. A safe, trusted advisor may be just what you need to reach your goal, but choose wisely.
Impress Yourself: Set goals that impress you. When we start to walk as small children, every step is applauded. This constant positive reinforcement is used to encourage our desire and persistence to walk. Eventually, they stop clapping. This is because you have moved beyond walking and onto more difficult physical challenges. As a leader, you have likely achieved a level of success at work. In order to stay sharp and continue to grow, your goals must progress beyond your current status. It is more important that your goals impress you, than impress others. Michael Jordan did not become the “Michael Jordan” by limiting himself to what impressed others.

Source: http://Top7Business.com/?expert=Kevin-Kearns

Vision Board

momwifediva — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 16:09:00 +0000

I have my materials now I just have to sit down and work. I cant take a picture because I lost my memory Card. I have to go by Walmart to see how much a new one cost. Have a great day.

Remember to focus on your goals. Do something today towards your goals. One step closer….remember that!!! Also, dont forget to have a talk with God for your strength to stay focused and steadfast.

“Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day”

momwifediva — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 16:08:00 +0000